Category: LGBT Discussion
How can lesbians have sex? Like they can make out and do all that kind of stuff, but how can they actually have sex?
oh my
Yeah, tell me about it!
Sheash.
what is sex?
I'm an innocent.
raaj.
In an earlier topic you said you were looking for a girlfriend. You also said in that post that you are 13. If you don't know what lesbians do together, maybe you should just wait to grow up more and then discover what lesbians do with your first girlfriend...that is if you don't change your mind about being a lesbian in the meantime. I'm not trying to be funny or mean, but you are at an age when most people aren't sure of what they want.
Just give yourself more time to grow up, and don't be so anxious to get into a sexual relationship with either girls or boys yet. And make sure you really are attracted to girls before you go around saying you are a lesbian. I know of two women who were abused by men and decided to "turn lesbian" because they thought a woman would never abuse them. So be sure of your feelings and reasons for being a lesbian. You need to sort things out and grow up some more.
Go to scarleteen.com, it'll become your Bible, especially since you're so young and have so much to learn about sex, dating, anatomy, emotional and physical relationships, and sexual orientation.
Oh yes, and I forgot to add that you can ask all the questions you want, and you'll get informative and more satisfying answers than you would receive here.
I'm sorry honey, but the zone is most definitely not the answer to all of our problems.
You should really take a look around the site I gave you above.
I ask the same question as raj. :D
I agree with Becky and Raven. Like they said (and like I said on your other topic), give yourself some time. If you're sure you're a lesbian, then great, but it doesn't mean you have to start dating online and having sex. Believe me, I can relate to some of your feelings. When I was your age, I was hell-bent on being twice my age. I was mature in some ways, and I had my reasons for wanting to be an adult, but if I had followed through on some of the plans I had back then, I would have really regretted it. Just hang in there and enjoy being a kid. I promise you, when you're 18, you'll have all the responsibility you could possibly want. In the meantime, if you ever need advice on anything, get ahold of me on here or Zone by Phone.
www.literotica.com has a section on lesbian sex stories.
should a 13 year old be reading that?
I just posted that so she can at least read about it and see if that is how she really feels about other girls. I do agree you should not have sex until you're at least 16 or 18 weather its with a guy or with a girl. I think reading about sex is a lot safer than going out and really having sex and maybe regreting it. Like they said, you're still young and I myself didn't have sex until I was 21. That is later than most people choose to wait, but I wanted to be sure it was what I really wanted with the right person.
I s'pose I can see your point; I read my first sex story at 14 and am still a virgin at 21. And I agree, wait till you're at least 16. It doesn't sound to me like you're getting any answers from your parents or whoever you live with? I'm guessing they don't know you're a lesbian?
I don't think that you guys should be telling her to wait to find these things out. I agree with poster fourteen. It's so much safer to read about sex than to actually start having it so young. Even though I have yet to have sex, I started reading all kinds of articles and threads about it and matters pertaining to it around the age of thirteen. It was, and still is an interesting subject matter to me. I think that parents should be more informative about this instead of trying to avoid talking about it with their teens. I think that having sex is sometimes an experiement or just one of those things that you wanna know what it's like, and so you do it. Many young people don't know half of what's out there, and most people that start having sex so young don't know much about their own or the opposite sex's anatomy. I think it's good to start reading up on this stuff before you start doing it. I say that this girl should learn as much as she can, and I totally encourage her to keep asking questions such as this. It's healthy, normal, and will benefit her in the long run.
I agree with the majority here. Make your own discoveries first before you officially say you're something or another.
I started watching talk sex with Sue around 13. I don't know, just some of the things I've seen on literotica, I think wow, if I'd read that at 13, that would have scarred me for life lol. There's reading info and stories and things, and then there's literotica.
Oh, and by the way, the vagina monologues are a good thing. Has anyone else ever heard them?
literotica.com is so damn cool. does any one know of any other web sites with sex stories like that?
Yeah I just read the vagina monalogs about a month ago. They were great and the reader that reads them does a really good job. I think it might have been the author actually. I can't remember.
Ok you're 13, and want to know how to have sex with a girl? Well I think you are much to young, but I know how to do it, but no I've never done it, but still..
You rub noses.
There. That wasn't so hard to explain now was it?
lol Cam, you're a dork.
ummmm? rubbing the noses? I thought those lips down.
I'm an innocent. so I'm not sure.
Raaj.
lol cam and raaj
nothing is wrong with questions as how to do something… hmm, as to sex, well there’s the fingering of the vagina, rubbing the clit, licking sucking the clit and vagina, kissing, and, rubbing your pussies together… not the greatest definition or explanation, but me never having, physical sex… well yeah…
I'll do one better than raaj. He wants to know what sex is? I wanna know what a lesbian is. Could someone please tell me? I'm much much more innocent, you see.
roflmao both Cam's and Raaj. 13 is way to yung to be reading sexual based websights, and if i was her parent i'd block them, cause let's face it, if she's asking how lezbieans have sex, she's certainly not mature enough to be reading things like that. how about you reach 18, then decide if your still a lezbian. your still a child, no matter how mature you think you are, and noone on here should be telling you to go read literotica or any sight like that, at least not without a parent or someone over the age of 18 with you to explain it to you. oh and before anyone says it, i'm not against her knowing about sex, but she needs to kno at her maturity level, not have it just thrown at her all at once. that's why i said what i did.
lol both cams.oh my god to the rest!!!!
hmmm... If you want more sites for sex stories... just google lezbian sex stories? I mean, google is your best friend at times, roflmao!
Oh yeah, and just... roflmao at both cams and raaj!
and jessica? Why are you critisizing her for this sex stuff when you were just as bad last year at 14 years of age? jkjk
I don't believe in sheltering children and telling them to wait until they are older. While I'd not ever, ever allow my child to look at porn and sexual content, I'd shure as hell give the child an honest answer. I'm not going to lie about where babies come from and stuff like that. If I tell my children not to lie, I'm certainly not going to lie to them to keep them from gaining knowledge about a subject they want to know more about. If they are old enough to ask the question, they are old enough to receive an answer. Telling them to wait will only make their curiosity heighten, and they will be more inclined to go out and find the answer, and it could be in the wrong way. And depending on how they do it, they could become more scarred than if they were told by someone who loves them. It is best to be straightforward, honest, and speak in a language that the child can comprehend at whatever age they are. Children are smarter than most give them credit for.
So if that is the case and childrn are smart, and I do agree with this, reading some sound books and such would be the better start. The problem with the internet, and stories, is the information is just stories. Someone gave her a great site, so looking at this one would be a good start, but she should always be careful what she believes, and trust. Slow is the way. You are only curious, and as was pointed out may not even be a lesbian, so read, learn, and most of all think about things. Thought is the key.
Nifty.org is another great site, some of that stuff is kind of raunchy but also a lot of the authors are extremely good. for example the novel Simon's journal was so good it brought tears to my eyes, 4 volumes. Also, some very cute names in that story as well. Not very erodic, but very much a great novel.
Plenty of hypocrites here.
On the one hand they don't like people telling them how they should live their lives (you shouldn't be a lesbian), and on the other they're telling Bluebutterfly how she should be living hers. Hypocrites the lot of you!
Telling people when to have sex is just as bad as telling them who to have sex with. Those who believe that you become 18 and all of a sudden you are capable of being more responsible than you could be on the days before you became eighteen is are out of touch.
Guess what guys, I finally know how to have sex with lesbians and it was great!!! I met this really innocent girl at my school but she was curious so I thought why don't I teach her a few things? First we were touching each other's boobs, then we went down low. We had to be careful that the teacher wasn't looking. We're not ready for threesomes yet. We couldn't wait for break. We found a private place where nobody would find us and we went further. My mum's said she can come over and stay with us and... she can sleep in my bedroom. I'm so excited! Just imagine what we'll get up to after I've got her drunk for the first time.
Oh my...that is disturbing on many, many levels. I don't even know what else to say.
Okay, so...
Everything in my last post is true except we really didn't do it at school and I won't be getting her drunk. I just had her over after school and we did it. My mum said I can have her spend the night this weekend! She doesn't know about what we will do, though.
Yay! Have fun!
Wow!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
words fail me. I mean, I started early by some people's reckoning, but thirteen is still... wow.
but hey, if its what you want, then by all means, go for it, I just hope you don't regret it a few years down the road. Once you start that, you can't go back. You can't redo the passed, as much as you may want to later in life.
Gross! Especially gross hearing it from a 13 years old.
Yeah, children shouldn’t be sheltered, and be exposed, but children shouldn’t exactly hear it blow by blow, either though. I remember I read a book describing sexual vividly at 13 and I was really disturbed (shivers) I still hate V. C. Andrews.
I'm agreeing with dez on this one.
Rachel, why do you think it's gross? I don't think I'll regret it. I love it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I did more stuff with her today.
ok.. that's cool and all, but why would u want to put that out there like that?
Other users put more graphic things out there than Bluebutterfly has, so why shouldn't she?
I don't think it's disturbing. If both girls are comfortable with what they're doing to each other, and they enjoy it, nobody should object.
I'm calling bullshit on this entire story, at least we have a new trole on the site.
yeah i agree with u senior, it's just she's only 13 and i'm just worried that she could say the wrong thing and get herself in trouble..
If there both 13 the only thing they have to worry about is parents finding out and flying through the roof. As long as they're near the same age to my knowledge they're doing nothing wrong...Though I wouldn't recommend an adult chatting about this kind of stuff with either of them...Jail bate comes to mind. :)
Roman battle mask, no, this story isn't bullshit.
My mom knows that we like each other, and I just told her that we kissed but she doesn't know anything else.
lol u should keep itthat way
Anybody can say the wrong thing and get themselves in trouble, no matter what their age.
Yeah Jess probably. Yeah senior, anybody can.
I don't know. You can have oral sex.
Yeah. I like olal sex.
lol. How many times had you had oral sex?
twice, but it was with the same girl lol
Okay, I have a number of responses for a number of people. Hmmmmm, where in the hell do I start?
First of all, Rachael, why in the world does it disturb you that a thirteen year old talks about sex? Isn't she old enough by then to know what that stuff is? Do we not have family life classes starting in the fourth and fifth grades depending upon the school district? I'm not trying to put you on blast or make a mockery of you or anything because different people are uncomfortable with different things, and that is totally okay. I just wanted to know. That is all.
I'm so thankful that my mother did not shelter me from learning about sex. When I was old enough to ask, I was old enough to receive the answers. And let me tell you, I learned all about sex far younger than thirteen. Does it mean that my parents were disturbed? Hell no. What it meant is that my parents believed in being honest and forthcoming, thus gave me the correct information, not filling my head with a buch of nonsensical crap just to shut me up all because they believed I was too young. They knew that if they did not give me the answers that I sought, I was just going to find it elsewhere. When any adult ever told me that I was too young and to wait until i was older, that was the green light in my book to deliberately defy them and go to any measure to get the information that I wanted. Believe me, I did, too. I was one headstrong child who never took no for an answer, and still to this day, I'm a very headstrong adult. If I want to know something, I'll know it. being that my parents knew that about me, and they'd know better than anyone else because parents always know their children better than others, they just gave me the answers, and the honest ones, too.
For real, I agree with you. Sound and educational books are the best way to go. Wholesome discussions are fine, too.
Senior, I agree with what you said.
Okay, I'm done responding.
yeah sex is sex, it's a beautiful thing, no matter how u do it or who u do it with, u just have to be willing to go for it
Er, I know this isn't specific to this topic, but "sex is beautiful no matter who you do it with"? Why does that disturb me...?
yes, very disturbing indeed...wow.
Lol dirty-minded people, hehehe
Why do we call sex butiful? It's two people roling around in there own swet and bottily fluids with no clothes on thrusting and grunting. WHen described in that manner it isn't so butiful.
Lol rbm.
Jessica, I totally agree with you.
I agree with GW and Essence. While I would never allow a child to view pornography or sexual acts in person, I don't believe there is anything wrong with asking questions. However, I would wait to explain things until children ask. Eventually, they will do such things, and then this topic needs to be discussed in a manner appropriate to age.
There is another issue here. There's a reason why sex with a minor is against the law, and that typically includes anyone under the age of sixteen. That's because young people that age aren't emotionally and cognitively ready for it even if they are physiologically. There are reasons for this stuff.
So Anna, ask your questions, but if I was in your position, I would seek reputable sources--people who are going to be honest with you and tell you age-appropriate information. Maybe ask your physical education, health or biology teachers. Ask your parents if you're comfortable. Ask older friends you trust. The afore mentioned site probably isn't censored and divided into age-appropriate stuff. However, I'll admit that I didn't look at it, so I could be totally wrong. The whole point is....ask your questions, but ask mature people who care for you, are knowledgeable, will respond to you respectfully and who are wise enough to give you the information in a method that's appropriate for you. Just my two cents....partially based on my understanding of child psychological development....
ana, you've already had oral, i'm not asking, to be mean, just out of curiosity, because everyone experiments, but, how old are you?
and, again, just be carefull, if anyone finds out...
I'm 13.